Change is a steppingstone to Destiny. In fact, change is one of the most important steps that will propel us to getting to where we are meant to go. However, human beings rarely take to it like we are Tarzan swinging from one tree to another, smoothly, with a sense of power and triumph. More often, we feel like we are on a roller coaster ride, being rushed through dark tunnels at frightening speed.
Change scares us because we perceive it as a threat or a danger. When first presented with change, we tend to ’default’ into protection mode about who we are and how life is supposed to work. In many ways, life changes may be considered “little deaths” with their own grieving process required. Think about it, even a positive change like a promotion can be nerve-wracking, afterall, it is something “new.”
Be patient with your process and give yourself space to process and adjust to the “new normal.” I know when I was going through many changes all at once…..moving several times, leaving a relationship, doing some deep personal growth work, I could fall in to overwhelm and fear. Gratefully, I had taught others about making life changes many times before, and I expected to walk through some different phases, each with its own challenges.
Learning to accept where we are in our process is an important part of moving through change with more ease and grace. For me, it was helpful to keep at the top of my mind, that successfully managing change had always led to a new sense of self and personal empowerment, and even closer to my greater Destiny.
Here are the phases that you may go through as you undergo radical change. These phases are normal and necessary and nothing to be feared. Above all, refrain from making yourself wrong, no matter where you may be….because when you ALLOW yourself, you will move through and move on in due time!
Phase One: Denial
This looks like a lack of reaction to the change. A “this can’t be happening” mentality that pushes against the changes.
You know you are in denial if you withdraw and are focused on the past.
Phase Two: Resistance
In this phase, strong feelings about the change emerge such as feeling doubt, anger, anxiety or uncertainty. With the appropriate expression methods, you can move through the emotional ups and downs much quicker by talking about it, journaling,etc.
You know you are in resistance if you experience anger, blame, apathy or other draining emotions.
Phase Three: Exploration
During this phase, you are drawing upon your creativity and resources to create new possibilities. When you embrace change, this can be an exciting time, especially when you choose to walk with other “pioneers” who are leading the way.
You know you are in exploration, if you are seeking new ideas, feel a bit confused about which way to go, are accessing new energy to move forward.
Phase Four: Commitment
At this point, you are ready to make long range plans and take action to move forward in a new direction. For a career change, that may look like planning your exit strategy or taking additional training. For a relationship change, it may mean joining a club or doing forgiveness work. You know you are in commitment if you are taking steps to move on.
So where are you in the change process? How does it feel to be there? What can I do to support you? Leave a comment, I love to hear from you.
Michelle L. Casto AKA Bright Michelle is a woman on a mission to inspire you to discover the Truth of who you are so you can freely shine your brightest light. Whether you are changing careers, making a major life transition, or seeking more meaning from life, you can benefit from the support of an experienced mentor to assist you with navigating the tough spots of walking your highest Destiny. Michelle has worked with thousands of international clientele to find their ideal career path, expertly blending human psychology, spirituality, and the science of success into a powerful formula for personal transformation. Her proven Destiny Success Process (Awake-Shift-Shine-Succeed) empowers people to grow beyond victim mentality and shows them how to be conscious creators of their life. A prolific author of 30+ life transformation products, her latest book, is The Destiny Discovery: Find Your Soul’s Path to Success