Love is who you are; however past memories of disappointment or hurt may be blocking your ability to share that love in a pure way. What I have discovered in my two decades of my own conscious healing journey, is that our family of origin (f.o.o.) is often the place to begin our transformational work.
NURTURE: the way we were brought up, and the beliefs and fears that were instilled in us are often creating our current reality, which affects our NATURE. What comes naturally for human beings is to crave connection and closeness.
And while our nature is to love, fear is what we learn; and that is what creates the heart-ache you may have known.
We can spend years unraveling the misperceptions we picked up with talk therapy or even “life coaching” or we can go Straight to the Heart of the Matter and HEAL it for Good.
What I have seen in working with my private clients is that your heart may be trapped behind walks and you don’t even realize it! When we start to do the release work, you would be surprised at the size and strength of these walls—some are as big as 10 feet and made of concrete.
When you have heart walls erected, you may be unknowingly putting up barriers to receiving the good stuff in life—like more love, money, friendships and adventure. What is even more shocking is that you may feel like you are locked behind a prison of your own making.
The good news is that you can break free, just like I did. You see, I suffered severe emotional neglect growing up. I did not have a word for it (therefore an awareness about how to heal it) until my early 40’s. And so I had built a fortress around my heart for years, and yet for soooo many years, I FELT something was off.
After my second divorce, I was searching for relief and FAST. I discovered heart wall healing based on The Emotion Code by Dr. Nelson and had several sessions with a gifted healer. I loved the process so much, I began studying it and found that it was a natural fit for what I was already doing with my private clients.
I longed to Feel FREE and for my heart to have Wings, and I wanted the same for my beloved clients.
I created the Return to Innocence Healing Process to help you identify with some of the feelings you may be experiencing. I have seen 4 predicable stages we go through on our way back to Wholeness:
Innocent: when we come into the world, we are open, trusting, loving and courageous
Heartbreak: LIFE Happens and we feel hurt, angry, confused, ashamed, or abandoned.
Wounded: We walk around with resentment and become shut down, numb, constricted and/or jaded.
Whole: We go on a healing journey, and become willing to explore new options, heal the past, forgive and move forward.
What is so ironic is that we are whole the WHOLE time—our Spirit is Infinite and could never be hurt or rejected or any of the human feelings we experience. Energetically, though, we fragment ourselves, losing aspects of what Feels like Us along the way. The bumpier the ride, the more your heart may feel beat up, bruised or broken.
Initially, we build up the heart wall when we experience a major heartbreak (usually before the age of seven, when we are absorbing the thoughts, feelings and energy patterns of our family members and home environment).
As you can guess, the more heart-aches, the bigger the WALL grows unless we are regularly practicing forgiveness, self-compassion, prayer and meditation.
Unhealed hearts is a major reason why we are quite insane as a society. We use people and love things instead of the other way around. Most of us don’t know how to truly connect and enjoy the intimacy, connection or love we know in our Hearts is possible.
With our over-analytical society that tricks us into believing that we can THINK our way out of life’s challenges and problems, we may resist doing the inner work necessary to become FREE.
The way out (of the suffering) is to go within.
Have you noticed that the hardened heart or big heart wall condition rarely gets better on its own?
That is why we often feel more and more self-defeated each time we try to open to a new relationship or make a fresh start…the wound gets re-opened.
The safest heart is the open and loving heart.
Here is a mantra that I offer for you to try on: “I am an open and loving heart.”
Think upon this idea for a moment and you will realize that nothing ever really hurt you…you are OK.
Your mind just made up major stories about how you were wronged and then you lived out your life with a mistaken notion, which created more trauma and drama. And yet all of that was to get you to this point of AWAKENING.
So how do you break down your heart wall? Can you demolish it for good?
While it is a work in progress, I’d like to offer some initial self-healing steps to take right now to begin break down your own heart wall.
First of all, drop into your heart by breathing consciously, closing your eyes, and putting your hand over your heart. Take a moment to get connected to your heart and your heart wall. Thank your heart and heart wall for being there and for getting you to where you are now in life. Tell it that you know it was just doing its best to try to protect you from getting hurt. Tell your heart you are ready and willing to listen to what it has to say.
Now ask your heart and your heart wall some questions:
What is it that you really want to experience? What is it that you need to get off your chest? What makes you angry, sad, jealous or afraid? What do I need to forgive within myself? Who do I need to forgive?
Express your gratitude for whatever your heart shared.
Say out loud this healing command:
In the name of God, Jesus, Creator (or whatever higher power you believe is) and with the great liberation of my eternal SPIRIT, I direct divine Light, Love and Truth to shine upon me to remove the walls around my heart that are holding me captive. I now release these barriers so that I may give and receive the love I desire and deserve. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. It IS Done.
Michelle Casto (aka Bright Michelle) is a global leader in consciousness, the creator of Rock Your Destiny.biz, Awakening Guide, author and Modern-day Goddess. Gifted with the ability to shine a light on hidden blocks, limitations and illusions, Michelle possesses a potent magic that allows clients to shift from being victims of their circumstance to becoming conscious creators. Michelle works with thousands of people across the globe radiating a vibration of passion, play and empowerment in all she does. Her bright light is a beacon of inspiration, activating each person to remember their Destiny so they can grace-fully express who they were born to be.
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***And if you are ready to release your heart wall and be the LOVER you were BORN TO BE, then let’s get started with a breakthrough to clarity session.